This statement gets nothing more than a sarcastic thumbs up from me.
Would anyone actually want to hear that when they’re feeling low?
When you’re down and find yourself in a bad place, statements like that might often seem like empty words.
That’s not what we need to hear, it’s vague.
We need guidance. It’s important to acknowledge the fact that you’re feeling low, almost accept it in a way. Accept where you are so that you can find ways to heal.
I often write with regards to football and footballers, but this message, as well as others, can easily be related to our every day lives.
A footballer suffering from injury would often find themselves suffering mentally. In similar ways, someone unable to work (for whatever reason) is likely to feel the same.
In these scenarios we need people to level with us and then guide us towards a better mental well-being. Someone to sit and listen – to understand, not necessarily be sympathetic.
I often see posts and articles with a similar message to the above. But it’s not okay to not be okay. It’s horrible! And the ‘arm around the shoulder’ approach won’t encourage healing, it’ll only paper over the cracks.
We need guidance. Help with where to start when it comes to feeling better. An exercise program, meditation, some sort of routine to put our mind at ease and to get us moving forwards again. We need progression!
Someone letting us know that it will be okay simply isn’t enough.
Would hearing “it’s okay not to be okay” help you?